married in October. The discussion of who he is having in his wedding party has been brought up many times but he never gives us a definite answer.
Having 3 brothers one would automatically assume that at least 2 of them would be his best men. Short is obviously too young, but to me, Joe, both sets of Grandparents, Aunts, Uncle's, etc,. Grande and Tall would surely be his Best Men!
Apparently not! We find out that he wants to have 2 of his friends as best men! Mocha is having her 2 sisters as Maid's of Honor and yet Venti doesn't want his brothers as his best men!
I am really having a hard time with this!
On Friday Venti says to me, "I said something to Grande about being a best man and he said there were too many responsibilities"......
"Well he'd have to plan my bachelor party and say the toast....and all the other duties that go with it"
Why don't we all talk about it at the dinner table, I said...
At the dinner table I find out that Venti never did ask Grande to be his best man....instead he told him all the responsibilities of the best man and assumed that Grande wouldn't step up to the plate!
So Grande said, "Oh I didn't know you were asking me to be your best man......of course I will!!".....he got all excited and said he would write his own toast and do everything he needed to do!
Well Venti's face was priceless.
He looked like.....oh crap...now what do I do!!
Can you believe it! My son looking sad because his own brother wants to be his best man!
Then it gets worse. The next morning Venti says to me that he is going to have his friend Nate be his other best man. I said, "what about Tall...are you just going to toss him down on the end..and don't you think he won't feel bad that Grande is a best man and he isn't?"
Venti then starts saying stuff like, "you are forcing me into making a decision I don't want to make".....and "you are controlling me and its my wedding"....
I was shocked...brought me to tears.
Our family is close....really close...but apparently not close enough to have your own brother as best man!
I said that I had my 2 sisters as my Maid of Honors even though we weren't close then (we are now)...my younger sister was only 14 at the time! I also said that Joe has his brother as his best man and they aren't even close (they are 12 years apart).....I said that its the right thing to do...you are supposed to pick family over friends! Friends come and go....brothers are there for life!
Well he doesn't think this way.
And it makes me sad.
Sad that in a couple of years when his so called friends aren't around....and his brother are....
I could be wrong about that....but maybe I'm not. I don't talk to the girls in my wedding party any more...except for my sisters.
Then today....Mother's Day....
Grande got me flowers
Tall got me Rose's
Short made me a Rosary
Venti didn't get me anything.....I cried....
Its not how much you spend....its the thought that counts.....all the things I do for him throughout the year (and its alot!) and he doesn't get me anything.
So this is the last Mother's Day that Venti will be living here.
And it was a sad one indeed...