Until I gave my notice...
I sent a really nice letter attached to an email to my boss yesterday morning and not 10 minutes later she called me...
Begging me to stay...asking me to "name my price".....she said I was a "breath of fresh air"....and "perfect" for the position and that they didn't want me to go...
Sigh...
I had made my decision and was happy about it and confident that it was the right decision...and now this...
I told her that I was thinking more long term and that a state job is much more secure then a family ran business. I told her that I was worried that the store that I manage would eventually close which she reassured me that it wouldn't...
But of course she's going to say that! No one really knows what will happen in say 3, 4 or 5 years from now.
She said that she wanted to come and talk to me...the main office is a little over an hour away and so she said that she wanted to come today and take me to lunch...
And woo me....
Then she called 1/2 hour later and also offered me another weeks vacation..on top of my regular vacation time..
I called my neighbor when I got home because he is a retired state worker and he said I should definitely take the state job. He said it was a no brainer! He said that he thought my sister's friend Becki works in the Dept. of Revenue and that I should call her.
I called her and yes she does work there and started in November. She said that she would be on the 4th floor as well and was excited about me working there. She also said that I would not regret taking the job.
Hmmmmm....now of course my head is spinning...what to do...what to do...
I wonder what she will have to say...will I change my mind??
Wish me luck! I'll keep you posted!
What I can say is once you've decided, stick to it. No point being wishy-washy and get yourself swayed by the temptations like vacations, salary adjustments and stuff. They would've done so if they appreciate your work there, not until you decided to move on.
ReplyDeleteThat said, my motto when I was still in the working world is 'Leave in peace, not in pieces'. Don't burn bridges, leave on good terms.
All the best to you
~ Jenny @ http://www.imafulltimemummy.com/
I've been out of the work force for 22-years, but I remember what was like to leave one job for another. It's so normal to feel some apprehension, but you have to listen to your gut instincts. And, sure go with the flow and hear out your boss' proposal. You haven't lost a thing by your luncheon with her, plus you may be able to leave things on a positive note. As you said, we never know what the future holds so you don't want to make an enemy out of your current employer. Good luck!
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Perhaps I'm wrong - but go with what makes your heart happy. Yes there is security in the state job - but will your heart be happy? Look at it closely. I agree, hear your boss's proposal out, don't give her a decision today - sleep on it. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGood luck. You might flip a coin to make the decision. "They" say whatever you hope for while the coin's in the air will tell your true feelings. Can't hurt.
ReplyDeleteNow my stomach is in the knots. Like Shelia said, don't give her a decision today because you may go home and change your mind. Think on it a few days. And whatever you do, don't flip a coin. That's ridiculous. This is too important. Use your brain and heart and do your research, talk to everyone you can, including your husband.
ReplyDeleteJava, stick by your guns.. Once u made up your mind, never go back.. Its like taking back an ex-bf or ex-hubby, its never quite the same... She probably didn't think u would get hired and that's why she's coming back w/a vengence to bribe u back... Believe me there isn't anything she could offer u... Look forward, never back.
ReplyDeleteI gotta say, there must have been something that caused you to think about changing in the first place. I'd go with the government job. You may find it to be just what you were looking toward all along.
ReplyDeleteSorry you are having such a hard time deciding, but the security sounds so good, especially in today's economy. Blessings jane
ReplyDeleteI hope it all went well and you made the best decision. I know it's hard when they take you to lunch and "beg" you to stay. :)
ReplyDeleteI love the 'begging' stage.. it gives us an instant feeling of "WOW! I am worthy of having someone BEG for us to stay!"
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart and you'll be fine! :)
Let us know how it went!
Oh Lordy..what a good problem to have! I am green with envy..( no one wants to offer me a job, I am afraid) You GO girl!! You will know what is the right thing to do. Good Luck!!
ReplyDeleteHope it all went well. It's a nice feeling when someone doesn't want you to go.
ReplyDeleteState job, state job, state job. You won't regret it once you have it. All I have done the last couple of years is try to get in with the state. the security, the benefits, the long term care. That golden handshake when you retire... What you're getting right now is GUILT. She might offer you a lot of money now, but it won't be worth it in the long run! She can't offer you lifetime security and the state CAN! The state can guarantee yearly raises, she can't. I hope you stick with the state!
ReplyDeleteI have been in this same situation, of course, different jobs.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing I ever did was make that move. . . even after the promises, pay raises and extra vacation was offered.
It's your call, sister. It is certainly a hard one. And because my stomach is in knots for you now, my appetite for supper is curbed!
Thank you so much for that!!!!!! I am trying really hard to lose weight! You are my new BFF. LOL!
Seriously,
Don't let the warm fuzzy, all about you comments cause a mind change again. If you choose to stay, make sure you are doing it for the reasons way down deep. Not because that incredible boss said the right things and bought you lunch.
Wow, good luck with this! Just remember, when in doubt...don't.
ReplyDeleteafter reading the above comments of course it would be me that would say something different.
ReplyDeleteActually initially I said to stay put but the decision is ultimately yours.
I worked at one job for over 21 years and then after moving to Michigan I had 9 jobs....and lost my last due to downsizing.
For me, it is important to be valued as a PERSON and not a number. We all have different things that motivate us, for you it might be some other motivation.
If it were me, to me the government job seems as if I would be treated "like a number" (cue Bob Seger singing "Feel Like A Number" in the background)....I prefer to be valued as a PERSON.....
Look closely at what motivates you and makes you happy....then make your decision.
I believe things happen for a reason.
As many others said whatever you decide don't burn your bridges....the "people you step on on your way up will be the people you will see again on your way back down"
How did i know this would happen? By now, you had your meeting, and I am guessing made your decision. I would have been shocked if this didn't happen to you. I really feel based upon my experience, that you should make the move. There was something that caused you to look. If you were 100% happy, you never would have gone on the interview. It is easy to get confused, especially when someone is singing your praises, and offering you additional money or perks. Believe me, I know. I was in your shoes 11 years ago. However, the issues that were there that caused you to look in the first place will remain. If you feel that the new position has more of a future, you should make the leap. Also, nothing is ever permanent. If you make the move, and are not happy, you can always try to return. I know my old company offered me my old job multiple times, and I hired back people who quit for other opportunities... Good luck!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard to make decisions! It seems like we always second guess ourselves!
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