tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post7873937168737289540..comments2023-09-23T11:05:23.508-04:00Comments on Never Growing Old: Never Assume...Javahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07932885655554324081noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-61319489170589201862011-02-18T10:58:12.485-05:002011-02-18T10:58:12.485-05:00Java, I'm so glad I didn't miss this post!...Java, I'm so glad I didn't miss this post! This is such an important message. It will very likely save a few friendships.Jean | DelightfulRepast.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02038772991628796917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-83899077754762251052011-02-16T15:34:31.236-05:002011-02-16T15:34:31.236-05:00Great lesson. I make this mistake more times than ...Great lesson. I make this mistake more times than I care to admit. And yet get so mad when someone assumes somethng about me.....mCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16252684152629825538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-59130706934102248112011-02-15T19:00:21.131-05:002011-02-15T19:00:21.131-05:00I try not to assume, but it's hard, isn't ...I try not to assume, but it's hard, isn't it! Have a friend who has been distant and didn't turn up for me at a crucial moment. I'm pretty sure she's having "issues" again, but it still feels bad. Of course, I've reached out to her to find out what's going on but I haven't heard. Sometimes I just wish people would be honest and say, "I'm having a bad time...will get back to you when I'm doing better." I've said that myself!WendyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00985099019783464580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-36065058583125445922011-02-14T17:35:23.230-05:002011-02-14T17:35:23.230-05:00Glad things ended on a positive note, though. Freq...Glad things ended on a positive note, though. Frequently that's not the case when A$$uming happens... I've been guilty of being wrong in assumptions as well of having felt the sting of others assumptions... Yeah... not a good thing. If only we could remember the lesson when we're stepping inthe trap again. LOL!! (((HUGS)))Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04243241502261974167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-13962655724427126632011-02-13T14:19:17.353-05:002011-02-13T14:19:17.353-05:00I try to practice this & tell my kids this.......I try to practice this & tell my kids this....never judge the situation, judge things by who you KNOW the other person to be (the GENUINE person). If you base everything off of a situation instead, you are not basing it clearly. Things HAPPEN in people's lives that we know nothing about. But if you've KNOWN the essence of the character of someone truly, then you will know whether you should dig a little deeper, or if they are superficial enough to not be worth the effort. Some truly are worth it (altho' many are not!). Don't look back. You both have regrets about this. Be there for one another now. And remember, there's a reason the windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror! Hugs ~ MeranaMerana Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651075269911984143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-45001852244948472942011-02-11T12:52:22.940-05:002011-02-11T12:52:22.940-05:00Wow that story touched my heart! so true...never ...Wow that story touched my heart! so true...never assume! So happy you 2 worked it all out and moving forward! Thanks for sharing!Pam Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06904086692873201266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-7403451864645941052011-02-10T23:48:17.277-05:002011-02-10T23:48:17.277-05:00Sad and tough lesson learned, so sorry.Sad and tough lesson learned, so sorry.Brenda Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-91335604719590819642011-02-10T23:16:33.671-05:002011-02-10T23:16:33.671-05:00Thanks for the important reminder, Java. I think w...Thanks for the important reminder, Java. I think we're all guilty of assuming instead of asking at times. I'm happy you were able to resolve things with your best friend and really appreciate your honest and heartfelt post.<br />Deb @ RaisingFigureSkaters.comDeb Chitwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16665549481411417908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-21812802829119780412011-02-10T22:20:25.072-05:002011-02-10T22:20:25.072-05:00I'm glad that everything out good at the end.I...I'm glad that everything out good at the end.It really was a logical assumption though. I can see myself making the same mistake.Blessings janeJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08535490386634385929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-81586173473497782162011-02-10T21:20:39.337-05:002011-02-10T21:20:39.337-05:00A good lesson for us all.A good lesson for us all.Sheila Silerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15284982582798743408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-32957002492884378912011-02-10T21:17:13.589-05:002011-02-10T21:17:13.589-05:00Oh. . . this is a hard lesson. I'm so glad yo...Oh. . . this is a hard lesson. I'm so glad you and your friend worked through it. Sorry she missed the wedding on both parts.<br /><br />I'm glad you posted this. I can imagine I would have done what you did. Sorry you guys had that bump in the road and yet, glad your relationship was solid and worth getting to the other side of it.Sharon Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00695395104518983907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-41110878830092225752011-02-10T20:31:32.321-05:002011-02-10T20:31:32.321-05:00you are exactally right, Java you can't change...you are exactally right, Java you can't change the past you can move forward. (that ASSUME word has gotten me into so many problems over the years) like you I knew darn good and well not to do that. Let's just say my bff are once again unseperable.<br /><br />Hugs n Blessings<br />GinaGinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16736287152859391525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-44983755896360360662011-02-10T19:55:57.263-05:002011-02-10T19:55:57.263-05:00Glad y'all are able to put that in the past an...Glad y'all are able to put that in the past and move on. Hate that your friend was going through all that and didn't reach out to you, but understand that she was embarrassed about it.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533317405680450964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-64515952878568578522011-02-10T19:54:30.916-05:002011-02-10T19:54:30.916-05:00So glad you were able to put your friendship back ...So glad you were able to put your friendship back on track. I was afraid that this story was not going to have a happy ending.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-21569943361885166872011-02-10T19:05:06.872-05:002011-02-10T19:05:06.872-05:00Very cool. This is also a "Keep the lines of...Very cool. This is also a "Keep the lines of communication open" with your friends. Maybe you need a 'round tuit'. ~lol~AFare24Gethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09866585464422858527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-76549135005549222562011-02-10T19:00:42.561-05:002011-02-10T19:00:42.561-05:00Ouch! I think there is a lesson to us all here Jav...Ouch! I think there is a lesson to us all here Java. The best thing is that you are talking again so hopefully you can chalk this up to experience.<br />Helen xxxHelen Pigotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00568639994464551097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-48965958580739136612011-02-10T18:45:34.465-05:002011-02-10T18:45:34.465-05:00Sad story. I find that most of the arguments my hu...Sad story. I find that most of the arguments my husband and I get into are because one or the other of us ASSUMES something.dluvscokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07642878004500984589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-82609615747470333542011-02-10T18:18:18.266-05:002011-02-10T18:18:18.266-05:00Thank you for sharing this and I'm so happy it...Thank you for sharing this and I'm so happy it had a good ending. This is certainly a reminder that technology is not full proof and communication we hit send on , may not actually arrive to the recepient...wishing your friend the best as she gets back on her feet and now that she has her long time friend by her side, she will be OK. xo HHLhighheeledlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-30795540386274562702011-02-10T17:32:16.597-05:002011-02-10T17:32:16.597-05:00What a great word...Assume has got me in trouble m...What a great word...Assume has got me in trouble many times.....<br /><br />Loved the postTeresa @ Grammy Girlfriendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05151128140345216126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-89559543621935133292011-02-10T16:23:48.880-05:002011-02-10T16:23:48.880-05:00I am so sorry.. U know what they say about ass-u-m...I am so sorry.. U know what they say about ass-u-ming....I know u have heard the phrase 'blood is thicker than water'? guess that fits here too?Kalei's Best Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12331539743751163269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-72862306408257538442011-02-10T14:31:27.028-05:002011-02-10T14:31:27.028-05:00Sad to have missed being there for each other but ...Sad to have missed being there for each other but sometimes you walk away with something stronger.Mrs. Tunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04547957015150000116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-18223956378858238572011-02-10T13:24:21.730-05:002011-02-10T13:24:21.730-05:00Oh Sweetness, I'm sorry about your fractured f...Oh Sweetness, I'm sorry about your fractured friendship. But it is all on the mend now it seems. I've ashamedly done similar things only to realize how wrong I was to speculate and jump the gun. But those times have just been a way I think of God tapping me on the shoulder to let me know some character flaws I needed to work on. It takes a big person to admit their mistakes too. Blessings to you both, MollyeMollyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659366521767357537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-83332308291033943572011-02-10T12:32:43.454-05:002011-02-10T12:32:43.454-05:00Wow, I hope things are all better now.Wow, I hope things are all better now.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01823862479614209543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-84221706329230031282011-02-10T10:51:12.235-05:002011-02-10T10:51:12.235-05:00I am so sorry about what happened with your friend...I am so sorry about what happened with your friend. But thank you for sharing your story. It will most likely help others avoid future mistakes.Trudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11649677045881448393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-256911450791990581.post-16079486440585169552011-02-10T10:46:26.588-05:002011-02-10T10:46:26.588-05:00I wish every young bride would read this too. The ...I wish every young bride would read this too. The biggest problems in marriage arise when you "assume" something (speaking from experience here). Great post and advice!Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.com